Ok, so this man was 20 years older than me, which may seem like quite a stretch but we were just suited to one another. He was married but no longer with his wife, instead of going through the divorce process they just decided to stay married and friendly with one another. He was totally honest with me from the moment we met inside an upmarket bar in the centre of the city. We talked for ages sitting on the high bar stools and straining to hear one another over the music. As the night went on we decided to head back to his apartment, it was a bright apartment with an amazing open plan design.

More young women than ever—45 percent—are trying anal, according to the latest research from the Kinsey Institute. If you're considering having anal sex for the first time, you're probably wondering how to prepare, relax, and enjoy the intimate moment with your partner. We called in the experts: Rachel Needle , Psy. The last thing you want to be before attempting anal is tense.

Despite increasing pop culture coverage, anal sex is still heavily stigmatized. While this might be true for some women, assuming it goes for all women is completely unfair. Woman A: It honestly does hurt, be prepared, and use lots of lube if you want an easier time. Woman B: At times, it can be uncomfortable, but I don't recall that it ever really hurt. I've had partners who are very attentive and listen to my needs, so I've never experienced pain.

Anal sex is a bit like a roller-coaster: exciting for some, nerve-wracking for others, and an experience with so much fun potential. Anal can also be a kinky alternative, or a kinky way to give or receive double the pleasure. If you're curious about what your first time having anal sex will be like, take it from the women and non-binary folks who've been there: It's going to be a physically distinct as well as emotionally distinct experience. There might be some physical discomfort in the beginning, since your muscles are trying something new.