Yeah, they can! In cisgender men and people assigned male at birth, anal sex can stimulate the prostate and lead to an orgasm. Prostate orgasms are intense enough to send waves of orgasmic pleasure from head to toe. For cisgender women and people assigned female at birth, anal sex can hit two hot spots: the G-spot and A-spot. Both are located along the vaginal wall but can be indirectly stimulated during anal.

But plenty of us are having it: a study found that participation in receptive anal sex for women was the same across most demographics, with higher education and higher income all correlating with a greater likelihood of anal sex. According to the same study, women who participate in anal sex are more likely to be irreligious, and married or living with a partner. They are also more likely to have engaged in sex with other women, to have started engaging in sexual activity before the age of 16, and to have experienced an unintended pregnancy. She generally orgasms quite easily, both clitorally, vaginally, and anally — though anal orgasms happen less often than the former two. She says when they do happen, anal orgasms bring her and her partner closer together. Alice, a year-old hairdresser, echoes this sentiment about trust, being comfortable around the other person, and an environment without shame being key to enjoying anal sex and reaching orgasm.

If it feels good, anything goes! Cisgender men and people assigned male at birth have a prostate , so in these cases a butt orgasm results from stimulating the prostate. You can stimulate the P-spot through the perineum, which is the runway of skin between the balls and the anus. This is how anal orgasms work for cisgender women and people assigned female at birth.

Anal orgasms are somewhat of a mystery to most of us mortals. Can anyone have one, regardless of anatomy? How do you give a woman or vagina-owning person an anal orgasm? Are they just for people with penises who have a prostate known as the P-spot? Sammi Cole, Lovehoney's sex expert told me everything you need to know about what I now will forever refer to as 'buttgasms'